Accept the fact that they don’t deserve you.
The initial stages of relationships are fun. Dinner, dancing, flirting, going to the movies together, having paint ball fights and so on. It’s the best, isn’t it? You’re so blinded under the bubble that the outside reality feels unreal and you can’t see straight, right? That’s where the problem lies. You can hardly see straight… not good.
It’s natural and easy to miss those red flags in your relationship. Instead, you see the world through rosy lenses and ignore anything mischievous your partner might do. But you should know – those red flags aren’t there to be taken for granted. There are always indicators that your relationship isn’t really as you thought it was. The signs are always there; you just have to know when, where and how to look.
Now this isn’t to say you should turn your spy mode on each time you’re with your partner. That’s why here is a simple compilation of the commonest warning signs that something isn’t right in your relationship. If you feel like you’re wasting your time in a “no-win relationship” that drains you at your emotional and mental state; if you’re the only one investing more emotionally in the relationship; if your love interest is indisposed to commit fully for the relationship to go forward, it’s time to leave this sinking ship before it drowns you in heartache.
So read these signs. Remember them the next time you feel like something in your seemingly fantastic relationship is a bit off. Red flags in relationships shouldn’t be dismissed.
1. You hesitate to take their help
Feeling hesitant and doubtful while asking for help from your partner is a major red flag. Example; if you feel weird about asking them to bring you some groceries and ask a friend instead, they might not be the “right one” for you. Being with the “right one” puts you in a comfortable zone to ask them for help whenever you want.
2. They don’t take out time for you
If they keep saying they can’t spare some time for you while they go and give others time, it’s a strong red flag. You need to see you clearly aren’t at the top of their priority list. People make time for those who matter to them; loving those who don’t even look at their schedule to give you time. If not, take it as a sign they aren’t who you thought they were.
3. Avoids Meeting Friends And Family
If they don’t show any interest in introducing you to their family or wanting to meet yours, they aren’t interested in the relationship. Even if later, couples do eventually want to meet people important to you. If not, it isn’t a good sign.
4. The relationship is just physical
Long-lasting relationships are based on love and trust, not just the physical aspect. If your partner’s connection with you is restricted to this aspect alone, chances are they might get bored from you and move on to someone else due to lack of depth and objectivity in your relationship. It’s a major red flag so please don’t ignore it when you realize it.
5. They aren’t loyal
On one hand, you’re looking for a solid relationship; on the other, your partner isn’t instead dating others… doesn’t it sound like a red flag to you? Dating this person means you should be on the same page. If not, they may never be emotionally there for you.
6. They make themselves wanted
Such partners employ what we call basic principles of economics—supply and demand— to guarantee they’re wanted. It’s easy manipulation, but at some point or another, we’ve all been fooled by it. They know they’re the only “supply” around for you so they make loads of demand to make them one hot commodity…by restricting their time and affection. Not a good sign. If you see this supply and demand, sell your stocks and leave.
7. They’re too self-centered
If they don’t care about what makes you happy, how you’d like to spend the rest of the evening or which food you’d want to eat, they’re just focusing on themselves. Compromise just doesn’t seem to be their thing. It’s a red flag they aren’t that interested in what you want or feel.
8. All assumptions, no facts
If your partner doesn’t trust you, jumps to their own conclusions instead of clearing things out with you, they don’t sound like someone you should actually be with. Who would want to take the blame every time?
9. They make you feel shameful about your feelings
You shouldn’t be with someone who, after you open up to them emotionally, make you feel ashamed for it. Feelings aren’t meant to be justified, they just are. We’ve all felt this at some point in our relationship… laid our feelings to them then have them criticize them. That’s not a good sign.
10. They consider you inferior
When they talk down to you, consider what you do wrong, speak to you in that condescending tone…they aren’t partners to be with. Never considering you their equal but as someone inferior isn’t the way to go in any relationship. Next time they talk down to you, notice it. It’s a red flag that’s always there.
Originally Published By: www.relrules.com