This is the moment a woman uses a hidden camera to test her boyfriend’s loyalty after sending another woman to chat him up.
The suspicious unnamed woman enlisted the help of YouTube channel To Catch a Cheater to find out if her boyfriend would be unfaithful to her.
It starts with the girl watching footage of a young woman approach her boyfriend, Steve, and ask to join him.
To catch a cheater is always a dangerous thing to do, rarely ending in any smiles or positivity.
Another heart has been broken after a girl made the decision to bait her boyfriend into cheating on her.
The girl, who was being used as the ‘bait’, began by saying she liked ‘sausage’ before proceeding to tell the boyfriend how she worked as a phone sex operator.
After her boyfriend took the bait and agreed to ‘smoke weed’ and ‘chill’ with the girl, the pair then kissed and the crying ensued:
The worst part of the video is when she calls her boyfriend to tell him she saw him getting with a ‘fat girl’ before ending the relationship.
A girlfriend employs this woman to set a honey trap for her boyfriend which is filmed on a hidden camera by YouTube channel ‘To Catch a Cheater’
His response is simply: ‘that’s fine’ – nothing worse than when the person shows no sadness to the relationship being over.
It’s almost as bad as when a jealous boyfriend fell victim of his own ploy to test his girlfriend’s fidelity while she was doing yoga.
The pumped-up, tight-topped man watched as the To Catch A Cheater crew sent a male yoga instructor to her gym to tempt her into straying.
After the gym buddies shared an intimate stretching session, the hopeful cheater-catcher lost his head in a screaming fit, even though he himself was unsure whether he classed his unidentified girlfriend’s actions as unfaithful.
The YouTube channel presenter, Luis Mercado, was quick to point out the jealous guy’s hypocrisy, saying:
Technically she passed the test. But it kinda seems like its bothering you. You kinda wanted this to happen, right?
You were planning to break up with her and then you want her to stay single for a year after you break up with her while you go date other women?
Failing to see the fault of this genius plan, the boyfriend exclaims; ‘Is that selfish?’
Yes, it is selfish and illustrative of this particular young man’s possessive tendencies and superiority complex.
Mercado puts it well when he says: “You’re in quite the pickle,” proving once and for all an appearance on To Catch A Cheater is the final nail in the cold coffin of a relationship.
13 Reasons Why Men Cheat After almost three decades of working with couples decimated by infidelity, I can tell you that men who cheat on a beloved wife or girlfriend can be amazingly creative when they try to explain why. Sometimes cheating men tell me, and the women they love, that their behavior doesn’t really count as cheating, because it didn’t involve actual sex. Other times, they find ways to blame others for their choices – their spouse, their boss, even the other woman.
[Yes, I understand that women also cheat. I have written about that numerous times, including here. However, this article, based on my new book Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, is about cheating men.]
As a therapist, I find most of the reasons that cheating men use to justify their infidelity fascinating — because almost all of these reasons imply that cheating was the only logical solution to their relationship issues and other life problems. I often find myself thinking, “Sure, cheating is an option, but only one among many. How about taking up a hobby, or volunteering to make the world a better place, or actually talking to your smignificant other about what you’re feeling and how the two of you might be able to craft a more fulfilling relationship? Wouldn’t any of those choices be better that lying, manipulating, and keeping important secrets from a woman you truly care about?”
But most men don’t have that type of insight. So when confronted, they minimize, rationalize, and justify their behavior with statements like:
Every guy wants to have sex with other women. And when the opportunity arises, he takes it. It’s a man’s biological imperative to have sex with as many women as he can. Why should I be any different? If I got enough (or better) sex at home, I wouldn’t need to cheat. I’m not doing anything that most of my buddies don’t do. If you don’t believe me, ask them. If my wife hadn’t gained so much weight — or if she was nicer to me, or more attentive — I wouldn’t have even thought about going elsewhere. If my job wasn’t so stressful, I wouldn’t need the release I get from online sex. Cheating? Really? I mean, who would rationally call getting a lap dance in a strip club infidelity? It’s just what guys do for fun. My dad looked at magazines and went to strip clubs, and that wasn’t a big deal. Well, I have webcam chats and interactive sex. What’s the difference? If the police had been out chasing actual bad guys, I wouldn’t have gotten caught in that prostitution sting. Why don’t they go after some real criminals? I’m only sexting and flirting. Where’s the harm in that? I don’t meet up with any of these women in person. It’s just a game. In the therapy business, we have a name for this type of reasoning: Denial. From a psychotherapy perspective, denial is a series of internal lies and deceits people tell themselves to make their questionable behaviors seem OK (at least in their own mind). Typically, each self-deception is supported by one or more rationalizations, with each one bolstered by still more falsehoods. In the eyes of an impartial observer, such as a therapist, a cheating man’s denial typically looks about as solid as a house of cards in a stiff breeze, yet these men will doggedly insist their rationale is sound.
This, of course, begs the question: Why? Why do men really cheat? And why do they sometimes continue cheating after they’re caught, even in the face of profoundly unwanted consequences like divorce, loss of parental contact, loss of social standing, and the like?
The truth is that all sorts of dynamics can play into a man’s decision to engage in infidelity. Generally, though, his choice to cheat is driven by one or more of the following factors:
Immaturity: If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he doesn’t fully understand that his actions will inevitably have consequences like hurting his partner, he may think it is fine to have adventures. He might think of his commitment to monogamy as a jacket that he can put on or take off as he pleases, depending on the circumstances. Co-occurring Issues: He may have an ongoing problem with alcohol and/or drugs that affects his decision-making, resulting in regrettable decisions. Or maybe he has a problem like addiction, meaning he compulsively engages in fantasies and behaviors as a way to numb out and avoid life. Insecurity: He may feel as if he is too old (or too young), not handsome enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, etc. (An astonishing amount of male cheating is linked, at least in part, to a mid-life crisis.) To bolster his flagging ego, he seeks validation from women other than his mate, using this sextracurricular spark of interest to feel wanted, desired, and worthy. It’s Over, Version 1: He may want to end his current relationship. However, instead of just telling his partner that he’s unhappy and wants to break things off, he cheats — and then forces her to do the dirty work. It’s Over, Version 2: He may want to end his current relationship, but not until he’s got another one lined up. So he sets the stage for his next relationship while still in the first one. Lack of Male Social Support: He may have undervalued his need for supportive friendships with other men, expecting his social and emotional needs to be met entirely by his significant other. And when she inevitably fails in that duty, he seeks fulfillment elsewhere. Confusion about Limerence versus Commitment: He might misunderstand the difference between romantic intensity and long-term love, mistaking the neurochemical rush of early romance, technically referred to as limerence, for love, and failing to understand that in healthy, long-term relationships limerence is replaced over time with less intense, but ultimately more meaningful forms of connection. Selfishness: It’s possible that his primary consideration is for himself and himself alone. He can therefore lie and keep secrets without remorse or regret, as long as it gets him what he wants. It’s possible he never intended to be monogamous. Rather than seeing his vow of monogamy as a sacrifice made to and for his relationship, he views it as something to be avoided and worked around. Terminal Uniqueness: He may feel like he is different and deserves something special that other men might not. The usual rules just don’t apply to him, so he is free to reward himself outside his primary relationship whenever he wants. Unfettered Impulse: He may never have even thought about cheating until an opportunity suddenly presented itself. Then, without even thinking about what infidelity might do his relationship, he went for it. Unrealistic Expectations: He may feel that his partner should meet his every whim and desire and otherwise, 24/7, regardless of how she feels at any particular moment. He fails to understand that she has a life of her own, with thoughts and feelings and needs that don’t always involve him. When his expectations are not met, he seeks external fulfillment. Anger/Revenge: He may cheat to get revenge. He is angry with his mate, and wants to hurt her. In such cases, the infidelity is meant to be seen and known. The man does not bother to lie or keep secrets about his cheating, because he wants his partner to know about it. For most men, no single factor drives the decision to cheat. And sometimes a man’s reasons for infidelity evolve as his life circumstances change. Regardless of his true reasons for cheating, he didn’t have to do it. There are always other options – couple’s therapy, golf, being open and honest with a mate and working to improve the relationship, or separation or divorce. A man always has choices that don’t involve degrading and potentially ruining his integrity and the life he and his significant other have created. Still, knowing why he cheated can be helpful in terms of not repeating the behavior in the future.